what language confers by expression when, by expression, information is deliberately witheld
some time ago.......
A (text based) conversation between a couple whose previous relationship is 'officially' over....
He's explained (to the ex) that he's now in a new and already well established long-term relationship, which commenced within 2 months of 'theirs' ending.
She asks (for her own reasons), "Do you love her more than me?" expecting a yes or no response,
instead...
He replies, "You know I'm not going to answer that question".
The immediate questions now - in her mind - are:
- Is that a reasonable response?
- Why would he answer like that?
- What am I expected to know?
- Why would that question be difficult to answer?
Clearly she can expect no further illuminating explanation from the source, this leaves
Conjecture
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Possible reason(s):
a) He doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings
- How does that work?
- It doesn't.
b) He doesn't want to hurt her by admitting, Yes, when - in fact, he does
(Implausible. Given that the relationship level is mutually understood, it would seem fair and reasonable to expect the answer to be 'yes' or to at least suggest (by confirmation) this is indeed the case)
Yet, there Must be A reason.
b) Perhaps he does Not, but admitting this could - potentially -
- Jeopardise the new relationship i.e. by effectively betraying his partner through admission
- Encourage the ex-partner to continue communication and so prolong contact
- Humiliate him by admission/confession.
c) Alternatively, there is no Yes or No answer as neither apply.
This would also explain the expected prior knowledge, and understanding,
both prompted by reference.
Anyway,
I've always loved the use of words - for all their descriptive actions, nuance, and implicit meaning.
Perhaps that's the beauty of APD - appreciation by respect and corresponding under standing.
