Like Father
......Like Sun..
Okay, I'm a single mother and I have brought my children up with practically no assistance from their father.
Maybe that's unusual, but it appears to me to be fairly typical in most single parent families.
I say this without judgement or bias, because what concerns me as a mother of three sons is that, as a woman I have limitations that I'm fully aware of.
Whilst it's certainly true to say that women are far more independent today than they've ever been previously (probably), and I'd not suggest that they're not capable of competently completing the majority of tasks previously associated with men, it's still true (I think) that we're limited by gender - in so far as providing a positive male role model for our sons is at least concerned.
Surely that task, at least, remains the responsibility of men?
This is where, I suspect, the greatest division of the sexes lie.
I've wondered what obstacles are perceived, or real, to a father's involvement in his child(ren)'s lives. There appears to be a whole host of possibilities and, whether I like it or not, I suspect most men, that feel prohibited from playing an active role in their children's lives, blame their mothers.
On the other side of the coin, the majority of single mothers probably blame the fathers.
For the child inbetween (regardless of gender), there's little that's positive - from this scenario - to be gained either way.
It seems to me, perhaps the most beneficial change we could ever make, for the benefit of mankind, is to address this issue openly and constructively.
Is that too ambitious?
